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The Battle of Crust

The Battle of Crust

This (belated) post is in honor of my mother and for all mothers who insist on what is right rather than what is easy.

As my Mom’s first attempt, I proved to be a challenge in many ways.  One in particular was that I absolutely hated the crust on the bread of my sandwich.  As an adult, I now know and accept the truth: fine character is developed by eating fine crust.  But this esoteric fact of life is better taught in a simpler way to very small children.  So – as all good mothers do – Mom insisted that eating the thin, burnt-brown part of my sandwich would give me mad skills such as whistling and growing big and strong.

I didn’t buy it.

For one thing, Mom ate all her crust – every time – and I never heard her whistle.  Not once.  For another, it seemed there were a lot of foods that help us grow big and strong.  In fact, I was learning about a new one every day – most of them nasty.  How big did I really want to be?

It was a dilemma.  What to do?  How to avoid both the crust and the disappointment in my beautiful mother’s eyes?  So, I waited until she left me alone with my lunch.  I nibbled my sandwich up to the brown bits.  And then I hid those under the edge of the plate.

She didn’t buy it.

The next day we were back to the battle.  My eyes teared up as I thought of the torture and agony of eating those gaggy incrustations.  The cruelty!  The unfairness of it all!  And then as I stared, alone, at the ragged, beige crescents lying there on the plate, a wonderful and perfect plan presented itself.

When she tells this story, Mom says she thought it was an overnight miracle.  Day after day of perfectly ingested lunches.  All summer I dutifully ate my sandwich – every bit! – and she came in to the dining room to collect a clean plate and praise a proud and happy child.

Later that year, on a chilly fall day, my Dad suddenly looked up, sniffed the air, and frowned.  ”Terri?” he asked, “Do you smell toast?”

It took them a while to find the source of the smell.  But when they did, they discovered that I had blissfully stuffed three months of sandwich crusts in the heating duct of the dining room.

Thank goodness they didn’t make me eat it.

We may try.  And we may get away with it for a while.  But, in the end, we can’t hide from our Mother.  We just can’t.

Happy Mother’s Day, Mom.

 
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Posted by on May 24, 2012 in Humor, Stories, Thoughts on life

 

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Stupid, stupid, stupid

Stupid, stupid, stupid

Adults are merely children who survive childhood.

We all do crazy things in our younger years, but some of us show a larger and more public capacity for stupidity than others.  Here are some of my wilder moments (maybe some of them will turn into blog posts):

  • Jumped / fell out of my loft in college while making the bed and shattered my back.  Yes, I was sober.
  • Crossed Europe on the back of a motorcycle with a guy friend I met in London at the pub. We camped with gypsies in Pamplona, etc., etc.
  • Climbed Mt. Hood with two friends up Cooper’s Spur as my first official mountain climb in less-than-ideal conditions.
  • Pulled out of a driveway in front of a pick-up truck doing 80 mph and got hit so hard it killed the car engine on impact.  I passed out.  He drove away.
  • Went on a date with, as luck would have it, a drug-runner who had served time in a Sicilian prison.  He threatened my life and those of my roommates.  Special.
  • Tried to cross a Cascade lake in a rickety, overloaded boat without enough life jackets.  The boat sank and two of us nearly drowned.
  • Decided to see if the family Ford Grand Torino really could hit 100 mph.  It could.  It did.  Briefly.
  • Hiked a headland at the very tip of Cape Johnson off the Pacific coast during high tide.  Possible choices: climb 60+ feet of nearly vertical, earthen slope (possibly fall and die) or drown (die).  Actual choice: climb.  We did not fall.  We did not die.

There’s more, but you get the idea.

Clearly, despite my best efforts, I am still here because God wants me here.  It’s as simple as that.

Isn’t that true of us all?

 
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Posted by on May 10, 2012 in Thoughts on life

 

A little inspiration for a beautiful Sun day…..

This music video pretty much says it all today.  We are rockin’ out here in the Peterson household.  What a talented, young artist!  Thank you, Jamie Grace.

 
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Posted by on May 6, 2012 in Uncategorized

 

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An amazing thing happened during the Angelus

Last December, I learned a simple, beautiful prayer called the Angelus that honors the Incarnation of Jesus.  First I prayed it in English and then I found this video by the Daughters of Mary singing the Angelus in Latin.  My husband calls it “Catholic Karoake.”

Suffice to say I sang it so much that he might be able to sing it with me.  In Latin.  While sleeping.

Anyway, the Angelus used to be prayed three times a day by the faithful in the town and fields while the religious were praying Matins, Prime, and Compline.  Churches had a special bell that was rung to announce the start of the prayers.

When was the last time you heard a church bell cheerfully ringing to remind us of what is really important and lasting?

Exactly.

This made me sad.  I grew up hearing church bells and miss them.  How nice it would be to have a bell before starting prayers.  Just a little bell, portable and light, with a beautiful, clear ringing sound.

At the start of Lent, I cleared out the house, giving away nearly anything that was not bolted down.  My mission was brutal.  When I blew off the dust from my small container of beading supplies, there were only two items saved: a small, clear glass angel with gold-tipped wings and a brass Christmas tree ornament shaped like a bell.  They had been stored side-by-side.

I didn’t get it at first.  I wondered why they were in my beading supplies, took them out of the container, and placed them on the couch.

That evening, in the middle of the Angelus, my eyes flew open and the whole world suddenly stopped.  There, quite literally, was my Angelus bell.  That I had asked for.  It was perfect.

Thank you, my Lord.

 
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Posted by on May 1, 2012 in Stories, Thoughts on life

 

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My Little Mémére

My Little Mémére

On May 3rd, we honor my Mémére’s birthday – Mémére Bea to some.  Four years ago in August, she died at the wonderful age of 94 years old.  She grew up an orphan with her sisters, raised by her aunts.  Since we were the only girls, she called us Princesses #1, #2, and #3 – in order of birth.  As we grew taller, we called her “My Little Mémére.”

My little Mémére would share memories from when she was young girl.  One of my favorites was about how she defended her sisters.  Apparently, a mean boy at school made her sister cry.  Mind you, this was in 1920′s and  girls were supposed to be meek and mild.  When she got to the part where she faced down the troublemaker, she’d grin, thrust her fist in the air and declare that she “punched him in the nose!”  Then she’d wink and laugh, adding, “But don’t you go doing that now.”  I loved to hear her stories about ice delivered in horse-drawn wagons to keep their food cold, about the cod-liver oil they had to take every day, about how getting an orange and chocolate in her Christmas stocking was a real treat.

My little Mémére was so gentle.  I don’t remember her ever really yelling at any of us grandchildren.  She spoiled us rotten.  She would help us pick up our toys instead of just telling us to do it.  She knew when we were out of sorts or didn’t know what to do next and kept us busy before we got in trouble.  Always ready for endless games of “Bataille” (French for “War”) or Crazy Eights, as we got older she taught us poker and gin rummy.  She would nearly always win at any game she played.  Mémére had a magic hand with card games in particular.  ”I’m just lucky,” she’d say.  Then the wink.  And the laugh.  Good thing we only played for pennies!

My little Mémére taught me how to knit cotton bandages for lepers.  She taught me how to pray the rosary.  She taught me how to properly shuffle and cut a deck of cards.  Mostly, though, she taught that it is best to accept what life gives us and do so with a willing and open heart.  The world might have considered my Mémére poor.  She worked as a lunch lady and lived in a rented apartment.  She didn’t have much.  But she was rich in family, rich in faith, and rich in love.  Absolutely everyone loved her.

My little Mémére liked pie.  She’d cut off a piece and chuckle, muttering, “Just a sliver.”  She would do this for every pie on the table so her “slivers” sure added up to a lot of pie!  She always had chocolate chip cookies and ginger ale.  She laughed at our jokes.  And she loved us.  Dearly.

Somehow I have a feeling that she is up there, still loving us from Heaven. In fact, I think she probably has a batch of cookies in the oven and is beating some poor soul at gin rummy. Again.

We better start saving our pennies.

 
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Posted by on April 29, 2012 in Stories, Thoughts on life

 

What’s in a name?

What’s in a name?

What’s in a name, really?

I took my husband’s last name with – I’ll admit it – some reluctance.  My family name is “Dolbec” which flows with the rest of my French name.   “Peterson” just doesn’t have the same ring to it.  (I was always told that Dolbec was Breton, but a cousin in Canada and a wonderful genealogical researcher, Yvonne, wrote me a note that I’ve included below.  Apparently it is not.  Where does she find this information?  So clever!)

Within the family, there is much speculation on the origins and meaning of “Dolbec” and my father insists that we are descended from nobility.  I have been unable to discover a solid, confirmable truth, but we do know that all Dolbecs in the world are directly related.  It is an ancient name and, technically, Dolbec is considered pretty rare.  You wouldn’t know that from checking Facebook though.  There are Dolbecs everywhere.

Our particular immigrant ancestor is Jean-François Dolbec, born 1648 in St-Ferdin, Normandy, France and emigrated to Québec some time before he married Marie-Anne Jeanne Masse in 1675.

That was a long time ago.

Though you wouldn’t know it from appearances, my sisters and I are just second-generation Americans.  Within one generation, our particular branch of this ancient family name will die out.  My dad is one of ten kids, and the cousins have all done our best – so to speak – but all the boys had girls (or they had boys who then had girls) and names do not continue through the female branch of the family.  My youngest sister refuses to change her name, in part because of this fact, but that still won’t make a difference in the final result.  And that makes me wonder.

How funny is it that we tend to trace official lineage through the male family name?  How strange.

What’s in a name, really?

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Here’s the note from Yvonne (Merci bien!):

Hi René!
In fact, Dolbec is from Normandy.  The surname has a normand (north men)’s origin.  In other words, it’s “viking”.  “Bec” comes from the word “baki” (little river), which gave “beck” in scandinavian countries and “bach” in Germany.  “Dol” is for saying “by”.
François Dolbec, our ancestor was coming from a little village called Evrecy, south of “Caen”
(Calvados department), just a few miles from the June 6th 1944 beaches…  My husband and
I passed through the city on our France trip last September.  And my parents had visited it.
Here, we came back to the old French Canadian’s custom, in which women keep their
baptism’s name forever. The situation persisted more than one century after the Conquest.
I find it more simple, but I know that in the family, south of the border, some don’t
think so.
 
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Posted by on April 27, 2012 in Thoughts on life

 

Somersault, sobresault, suprasaultus! Head over heels….

Somersault, sobresault, suprasaultus!  Head over heels….

Sometimes God chooses to show us in a startling way that He is really the One In Control.  He also has an incredible sense of humor, at least in my experience. My slow, human brain takes a while to process the Divine Joke and I often fail to appreciate His humor at the time but I suspect my cluelessness makes it all the funnier from His perspective.

Let’s see if any of my classmates from St. Thomas the Apostle School remember this – though I doubt it.

In sixth grade, I attended a Catholic school –  an old brick, industrial, square building with two floors of classrooms and a basement with a cafeteria.  Two huge stairwells made of metal and cement joined the floors and it was on one of these that I met my Maker and lived to tell the tale.

We were heading down the stairs towards lunch as eleven year olds do – lots of noise, running haphazardly and with little regard for personal space.

I don’t know how I fell.  One minute I was rounding the corner of the landing and the next thing I knew I had vaulted through the air, marveling at the fact that my body was completely airborne.  I was flying!  At first I worried that I was going to hit someone and take them out with me.  But as I turned upside down and saw the staircase rapidly approaching my head, all I could think was that I was going to die.

I must have stuck out my hands because the first hand landed on a stair.  My body  rotated and the second hand landed a few stairs down.  A final rotation and then my feet planted perfectly on the landing with my hands still in the air.  Ta da!  I stood there – breathless and amazed – while my classmates filed past as though absolutely nothing happened.

I think a grand total of one friend said something like, “Wow!  How did you do that?” as she continued down the stairs.

Our teacher, Sister Mairéad, caught up and, her face bright red, scolded me and  ordered that I never, ever do that again.  I was speechless so I just nodded my head – all the while thinking, “Don’t worry, lady!  I didn’t do it the first time!”

I wish I had some amazing words of wisdom from this experience.  I wish I had some divine insight or revelation to share.  All I can say is this:  When you trip, put your hands out and, if you let Him, God will guide your fall.

And only you and the likes of Sister Mairéad will even notice.

 
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Posted by on April 18, 2012 in Stories, Thoughts on life

 

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My So-Called Work Life

My So-Called Work Life

If Aristotle was right when he said, “We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then, is not an act, but a habit,”  then it is clear from this list that I cannot be convicted of anything so mundane as excellence!

Here is my work history – volunteer and paid – in no particular order whatsoever:

  • Barmaid - Cleveland Arms, London, UK  (Ah, yup.  Really, really.)
  • Easter Bunny - Bellevue Square Mall (And you thought it was a guy in the suit!)
  • Christmas Elf - Macy’s in Seattle (I couldn’t pass for Santa)
  • Food Server - for various caterers and the governor’s mansion in Hartford.
  • Senior Secretary - Seattle University, Albers School of Business Placement Center
  • Assistant Naturalist - Westmoor Park, West Hartford (A fancy title for mucking stalls and feeding the animals in the petting area)
  • Muffin Baker - some random café at 3 am, West Hartford
  • Hot Wings delivery - Storrs, UCONN
  • Resident Assistant - UCONN, Hilltop Dorm (Mainly consisted of trying to avoid seeing the freshmen do stupid things they shouldn’t)
  • Youth Leader - Sierra Club, Seattle Inner City Outings (This is how I met my husband!)
  • Waitress - O’Shaugnessey’s, West Hartford (Slinging breakfast at 14 years old)
  • Secretary / Receptionist / Temp work - various banks, insurance companies, financial companies, and a parking company owned by the mob
  • Tutor - United Indians of All Tribes, Seattle
  • Backpacking Guide - Wilderness Backpacking Adventures, Olympic National Park (great company run by a lovely couple……. us!  Hahahaa!)
  • Salesperson - various clothes and shoes shops
  • French Desk Reservationist - American Airlines, Hartford, CT
  • Freshman Outdoor Experience - Seattle University, Olympics Hike Organizer/Leader
  • Mountaineering First Aid and CPR Instructor - The Mountaineers, Seattle
  • Gardener / Groundskeeper for my apartment building at the time
  • Student Teacher - Foster High School
  • Data Research / Entry - School of Education, Seattle University
  • News Announcer - WHUS Radio, UCONN
  • Telecaster - West Hartford Public Access Cable Channel
  • Co-Director - Children’s Summer Theatre, West Hartford
  • Dishwasher, cook, hostess, waitress - Chi-Chi’s Restaurant, West Hartford
  • Assistant Snow Shoveler - in business with my Dad, West Hartford (We even made business cards!)

There are probably more that I cannot remember.  All of this has led up to my present occupation - middle school teacher.  It’s the longest I’ve ever held a job.  Can you imagine…. they trust me with children?  I marvel every day.

 
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Posted by on April 11, 2012 in Humor

 

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Two Combat Boots and an Umbrella

Two Combat Boots and an Umbrella

When I was studying abroad in London in 1989, I had many adventures.  Some time ago I used this one as a contest entry but changed the actual events to “improve the story.”  It never did sit right so here is the true story – no “literary-ness” – stripped  down to reality.  Much better.

My train arrived in Lincoln, England at noon and the hostel did not open until 4:00 pm.  So, to pass the time, I hiked along the public pathway on a beautiful, warm, sunny spring day.

The path followed the ridge of a long, large hill and was far removed from a large public grazing area and golf course at the base of the slope. A dense wooded area separated the path from the open fields.  I had the trail all to myself and I soaked up the sunbeams as I tramped along.

Soon an old man approached from the opposite direction and I gave him a friendly nod as we passed.  He stopped and stared at me.  I stopped too, thinking he was going to speak, but he shook his head and continued down the trail without a word.  Puzzled, I resumed my hike.  I saw fear in his eyes and could not figure out why he might be afraid of me.  True, I was sporting 1/4 inch buzzed hair, combat boots, a long denim skirt with leather jacket, a backpack, and a long, black umbrella.  Presentable for the London SoHo scene, but since I was missing tattoos and multiple piercings in creative locations, I was hardly the scariest outfit walking in England at that time.  I probably looked more like a goth Mary Poppins.

It wasn’t long before two sour-looking young men approached – the second one wore  a long, black trench coat.  They both stared intently at the ground as they walked quickly.  The first man ignored me as he passed, but the second raised his eyes with a look of hate and anger that slapped my face.  I whipped my eyes away and sped forward.  It was a few minutes before I realized that I was still holding my breath.  Now it seemed all the birds were silent and even the bright, cheerful sun had ducked behind a cloud.  All the peace had been sucked out of the world as I continued walking, crazy ideas screaming at me and urging me to run.  I forced myself to walk calmly for a time until some instinct coerced me to duck behind some bushes to see if the crazy ideas were right.

Sure enough, they had turned around and seemed to be following me from a distance.  I was trapped alone on a path I did not know.  Panicked and feeling a tad silly, I hoofed it to a bend in the trail where they would not see me easily, jumped the short wooden fence, and bushwhacked downhill as quickly and quietly as I could through the woods.

About halfway I dropped to the ground – all the while feeling very silly and thinking “You look like an idiot.  Of course they won’t follow!  You are being childish!”

I tried not to breath as they started to pass along above me.  Then I saw them stop and stare into the woods where I jumped the fence.  And being childish may have saved me that day because they didn’t continue on the trail.

They followed.

No longer caring if they saw, I crashed through the underbrush and tumbled out of the woods near two middle-aged golfers accompanied by huge wolfhound.  I was scratched and scared but safe!  They agreed that I should stick close to them for a while and gently chided me for hiking the public path all by myself.  The kind man with the wolfhound muttered, “Not safe up there for you, dearie.  Glue-sniffers!  Nasty piece of work.”

Minutes later, the glue-sniffers popped out of the woods, eyed my rescuers, and ambled past us, eyes straight ahead, as though there was nothing more normal than to materialize out of thick brush at that particular spot.  When they were well out of sight, I thanked my protectors, found a sunny spot lower in the field, and settled to  watch the horses and sheep graze until the hostel opened in two hours.  There were scores of people around.  Relieved and safe, I settled myself on a log, cracked open a book, and thought that was that.

Sometime later I looked up from my book to admire the happy buzz of a beautiful spring day.  My eye swept across the field until it froze on a figure wearing a long, black trench coat less than 100 yards away, casually talking to a girl caring for some  horses.  I had no idea how long he had been there and felt panic rising again.

Just then he looked up, met my stare, and gave me the most evil grin I had ever seen.  My face flushed red hot and I stared in disbelief and anger.  When I was on the trail, alone, he was a predator and I was prey.  Here in the open with the bright afternoon sun, he was simply trying to scare a young girl.  And this girl was done running.

I jumped up, swung the pack onto my back, and shouldered my weapon.  Game on.

He didn’t see me get up and so did a quick double-take when he saw his intended victim marching steadily towards him across the field.  At first he tried to continue his conversation while observing my progress.  I stared him down, every step bringing me closer, swinging my long, black, sturdy umbrella.

Then, abruptly, he turned and attempted to saunter coolly away in the opposite direction.  I maintained my course and speed like a 5 foot 6 inch glue-sniffer torpedo.  I was gaining.  He quickened his pace.  I sped up.  It was a chase race – he walked fast, I walked faster.  When he reached the fence at the road, he vaulted over it, and broke into a wild sprint down the road and all I could do was stand there and watch him run.

I never even got to use the umbrella!

 
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Posted by on March 16, 2012 in Stories

 

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Shameless Promotion for Katrina Grace’s Music

Katrina Proudfoot is an incredibly talented songwriter and freshman at Mt. Si High School.  I had the privilege of hearing her concert at Boxley’s and was completely blown away.  We can help her by getting her music out and getting her noticed.

Here is a link to her music video filmed, of course, right here in Snoqualmie and North Bend.  If you like bluegrass or old-time country, you will love this video.  Her other songs are not yet published on the web, but they are all different.  Some are jazz and some are a bit more pop.

Here is a link to her website.  Spread the word!

 
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Posted by on February 1, 2012 in Uncategorized

 

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